Nurturing Your Self During Times of Change
While transitions can create opportunities for growth and renewal, they can
also be incredibly challenging. Major changes in our core identity, career,
job, finances, relationship, family, or home can be disorienting and anxiety
- producing. Often, external changes are matched by a “call” to look deeply
We can honor times of great change by creating supportive structures in our
life. A self-honoring transition can be filled with joy, discovery and serenity.
Here are some ideas to inspire you in your own ever-unfolding journey.
Individual counseling, group support, books, and classes can be tremendously
helpful and affirming. Friends, family and loved ones can also give essential
support. During periods of immense change, outside sources may provide the
objective, impartial feedback we are seeking.
Designing Transition Structures
Transitions can be overwhelming if we do not create temporary structures to
contain periods of inner “re-organization.” Short-term commitments that meet
our immediate needs for security and our longer-term needs for growth are
stabilizing. Creative and surprisingly simple arrangements for housing and
work often manifest at this time.
Time to Rest, Reflect, Heal, Explore
Time alone to reflect, read, journal, walk, sleep is a significant source of
sustenance during times of major change. In nature, all new growth is preceded
by a period of quiet inner gestation.
Naming & Claiming the Transition
By claiming this as a period of transition you not only give yourself permission
to be in a state of “not knowing” and discovery, but members of your support
system may feel more at ease as well. You create a conceptual structure around
an internally unstructured time.
Letting Go of the Need to Know / Embracing the Mystery
Releasing old structures would be much easier if we could guarantee the outcome.
True transformation often involves a period of not knowing or confusion. We may
be clear on what we don’t want, but before our new vision completely emerges we
may go through a time of stretching and transformation a winter of the soul.
Cultivating Faith and Trust
When a significant change is accompanied by the call to look deeply inward, we
may feel afraid. Cultivating faith in our higher selves and the ultimate goodness
of the universe helps us access an unlimited source of energy and guidance. We
now have everything we need to begin embracing the unfolding mystery of our
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